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transitions of life // december 2, 2016
Grow up they said, it will be fun they said.
But what happened to living in the moment?
These days, we are so programmed to always be looking to the future, looking to what is next and what we have to look forward to. Of course there are great times ahead and great times behind us as well. But the truth is, is that we are not in the past nor the future. We are here, today, in this moment that is tomorrow's past and yesterday's future. What can we truly do to start appreciating the present more each and everyday?
As I am graduating from undergraduate school in a couple weeks, I have found myself thinking about this quite a bit. I have always found transitions in life very hard, and I am not one that likes change a whole lot. (unless it includes changing my homework plans to wine & movie night plans instead--hehe) When I first began college, it honestly took me the first couple years to truly be adjusted and living my life completely comfortably and happy. I had a great experience in high school, and moving on from it was a battle for me. I missed my friends, the small-town atmosphere, the sports, and everything included. (and my mom too :) )
On the other end, I have had a very blessed life with many different experiences. sometimes I find myself looking back at pictures of vacations I have taken, fun nights with friends, etc. and feeling a huge wave of nostalgia. Don't you wish we were able to appreciate these moments that mean so much to us while we are actually living them? Why does this seem so difficult? Even now, as I sit on a friday night babysitting & watching the 25 Days of Christmas, I know that I will look back and miss my college days where I kick it with my laptop and go home to my roommates ready with wine and conversation.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I find myself much too often not being able to wait for the future (I think I speak for all ladies who can't wait to put their wedding Pinterest boards to actual use someday), and then looking back at past events and feeling the nostalgia from the great times. It takes large transitions in life for us to be able to truly appreciate the things we have. Although some transitions are harder or easier than others, in essence, it is the same effect.
As the new year comes and I have 2 weeks before graduation at UWEC, and I have 5 months until I no longer live with my college roomates, I will be trying my best to appreciate the life that I am in NOW and stop focusing on the life that I will live or the moments that have already passed.
What can we do every day to appreciate the moments we are in & those around us?
LIFE & LOVE // DECEMBER 2, 2016
"Bull****!" We all know the game.
The one where we pretend to be right and then someone catches us completely making **** up.
Today I am playing that game with one of the most popular crazes in the last few years. Something that we gaze at for hours looking for inspiration and looking for something that will ease our hearts and minds.
I call bullshit.
Just stop reading them. Please for the love of God. Stop looking for some inspiration in these words that are made from someone behind a computer having no idea what your situation is. Of course there are great quotes that are generally good life advice. But when it comes to everything else, ladies, Pinterest does not know your life. And Pinterest certainly does not know your heart.
I recently have been thinking about this after one of my best friends' broke up with her boyfriend. Now as a girl in her twenties, I think I know as well as every girl knows what this feels like. Breakups feel like your heart is being drug behind a truck hitting every single bump there is...all while being full of 2000 pounds of tears & emotion. I think the golden rule in breakups should be #1, No T-swift breakup songs unless you want to cry for years, #2 No movies (Like 'Me Before You' or 'The Fault in Our Stars'), and #3 No Pinterest! (unless you want to make a bomb brownie/cookie dough/fudge recipe.)
For example, "love does not have to be flambouyant or loud to be present." While this may be true, ladies, if you do not feel the love in your relationship, GET OUT. Of course it doesn't need to be loud in the way that you are surprised with planes with banners reading "MARK <3S ANGELA" on the beach at sunset; but if your love language does not match his/hers and you cannot work together to the extent that makes you both happy, you deserve to find someone who makes you FEEL the love that they have for you; and so does he or she.
Or..."If you can't get someone off your mind, maybe they are supposed to be there." umm.....let's think about that. I think about Zac Efron a hell of a lot but something's telling me that he's not supposed to be my husband someday because his abs are in my dreams. Ok, extreme example, I know. But if you can't get someone off your mind, this is a normal effect of a relationship fall-out. This is what happens. It means you are normal. Thank god you aren't a robot! I would be a hypocrite if I said that I have not gone after the same person a few times (cough cough my boyfriend). But what I'm trying to say is, is that if the person on YOUR mind doesn't have what's best for you on THEIR mind; and if they can't find it real quick; then they are not worth your time.
Alright, so I would be lying if I said I didn't have a Pinterest "words & thoughts" board where I have about 556 of my favorite quotes on. What I'm trying to get across, is that when you are in pain, whether it is from a break-up, a fall out or fight with a friend or family member, do not go to Pinterest to solve this hurt. Do not go to sappy movies & Taylor Swift songs (unless that truly makes you feel better--which I'm pretty sure ice cream trumps any other solution.) Focus on those around you who will do anything to lift you up. Because please believe me that you have many.
To the friend that inspired this and anyone who relates to this, know that you are loved. When you are in pain, search no farther than those around you. Search your heart for comfort and find what it needs. Healing takes time, and in the end you are going to learn so much more about yourself and life, that you might actually (maybe, possibly, someday) think that the numbing, wrenching, painful heartbreak and hurt was worth it.
And lastly, the idea that you hate your significant other or someone who has caused you hurt, is not valid all of the time. For those of you who are confused trying to decide whether you hate or love this person...let me tell you that it is OKAY to care for someone even though they did you wrong. It is OKAY to not want to deal it back to them. It is OKAY to want the best for them. And lastly, it is OKAY to love them with all that you have....even though you know that their position in your life is changing to a new one. Because if I agree with anything, it is the one Pinterest quote that says:
"Having a soft heart in a cruel world, is courage, not a weakness."