"Bull****!" We all know the game.
The one where we pretend to be right and then someone catches us completely making **** up. Today I am playing that game with one of the most popular crazes in the last few years. Something that we gaze at for hours looking for inspiration and looking for something that will ease our hearts and minds. Ladies... PINTEREST QUOTES. I call bullshit. Just stop reading them. Please for the love of God. Stop looking for some inspiration in these words that are made from someone behind a computer having no idea what your situation is. Of course there are great quotes that are generally good life advice. But when it comes to everything else, ladies, Pinterest does not know your life. And Pinterest certainly does not know your heart. I recently have been thinking about this after one of my best friends' broke up with her boyfriend. Now as a girl in her twenties, I think I know as well as every girl knows what this feels like. Breakups feel like your heart is being drug behind a truck hitting every single bump there is...all while being full of 2000 pounds of tears & emotion. I think the golden rule in breakups should be #1, No T-swift breakup songs unless you want to cry for years, #2 No movies (Like 'Me Before You' or 'The Fault in Our Stars'), and #3 No Pinterest! (unless you want to make a bomb brownie/cookie dough/fudge recipe.) For example, "love does not have to be flambouyant or loud to be present." While this may be true, ladies, if you do not feel the love in your relationship, GET OUT. Of course it doesn't need to be loud in the way that you are surprised with planes with banners reading "MARK <3S ANGELA" on the beach at sunset; but if your love language does not match his/hers and you cannot work together to the extent that makes you both happy, you deserve to find someone who makes you FEEL the love that they have for you; and so does he or she. Or..."If you can't get someone off your mind, maybe they are supposed to be there." umm.....let's think about that. I think about Zac Efron a hell of a lot but something's telling me that he's not supposed to be my husband someday because his abs are in my dreams. Ok, extreme example, I know. But if you can't get someone off your mind, this is a normal effect of a relationship fall-out. This is what happens. It means you are normal. Thank god you aren't a robot! I would be a hypocrite if I said that I have not gone after the same person a few times (cough cough my boyfriend). But what I'm trying to say is, is that if the person on YOUR mind doesn't have what's best for you on THEIR mind; and if they can't find it real quick; then they are not worth your time. Alright, so I would be lying if I said I didn't have a Pinterest "words & thoughts" board where I have about 556 of my favorite quotes on. What I'm trying to get across, is that when you are in pain, whether it is from a break-up, a fall out or fight with a friend or family member, do not go to Pinterest to solve this hurt. Do not go to sappy movies & Taylor Swift songs (unless that truly makes you feel better--which I'm pretty sure ice cream trumps any other solution.) Focus on those around you who will do anything to lift you up. Because please believe me that you have many. To the friend that inspired this and anyone who relates to this, know that you are loved. When you are in pain, search no farther than those around you. Search your heart for comfort and find what it needs. Healing takes time, and in the end you are going to learn so much more about yourself and life, that you might actually (maybe, possibly, someday) think that the numbing, wrenching, painful heartbreak and hurt was worth it. And lastly, the idea that you hate your significant other or someone who has caused you hurt, is not valid all of the time. For those of you who are confused trying to decide whether you hate or love this person...let me tell you that it is OKAY to care for someone even though they did you wrong. It is OKAY to not want to deal it back to them. It is OKAY to want the best for them. And lastly, it is OKAY to love them with all that you have....even though you know that their position in your life is changing to a new one. Because if I agree with anything, it is the one Pinterest quote that says: "Having a soft heart in a cruel world, is courage, not a weakness." always, Allison
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